DISCONNECT TO RECONNECT

Welcome to the 21st century, a century with a profusion of youngsters suffering from what I call Verbal Communication Syndrome (V.C.S.) A greater percentage of their communication is through texting even when the recipient is at a stone throw away. The main reason to why their relationships can't stand the test of time is that; unlike verbal communication, texting is incapable of expressing the most vital element of effective communication namely; feelings.
Texting as a means of communication that the young generation have totally embraced have not only robbed them the authentic meaning of effective communication which is denoted by the exchange of feelings, it have also restrained them from establishing apt physical self-expression as well as self-confidence.
Effective communication is the exchange of feelings where understanding is derived. You can argue it otherwise till cows come home but 97% of effective communication is based on your body language which includes facial expressions and gestures. That's why face to face communication is the most effective method that guarantees effective communication.
Times without number I've heard people urge that texting and chatting are the most effective means of communication. This is a point that I strongly beg to differ. From my school of thought, texting and chatting are rapid means of communication but not effective.
A perfect example is a case when you send someone a text message and he or she claims to have not received the text. For the people who thought that wassup had finally saved them the lie of recipients who claim not to have received a text message, i have bad news for you. You're recipient can set his or her wassup in a way that both read and unread messages remain grey. This gives someone a chance to claim not to have read your message even when he or she have read message. With that knowledge well encrypted on your finger tips, it's always important to refrain from texting especially when indispensable understanding is essential.
Most parents who have adopted texting as a primary means of communicating with their children have already set themselves up for occasional frustrations. Children especially teens whom truth is a nemesis have a tendency of claiming to have not received or read the text. To free yourself from such occasional frustrations, just refrain from texting and develop a trend of calling that way you will be sure that your message is perfectly delivered whenever your call is answered.
Needless to say, the most effective method to parent your children is through a face to face communication whenever the chance is at hand. If time with your children is always contingent, you have a responsibility to create time out of your busy schedule for a face to face communication. Face to face communication with your children does not only ensure effective communication, it simultaneously helps to create infinite memories in the lives of your children. 
In this day and age, it's inarguably true that most parents have no control over their children in matters internet consumption. Internet has substituted mum and dad parenting resulting to a morally delayed generation. Whenever all family members are always aboard the internet technology platforms on daily basis for reasons better known to themselves, there is a dire need to disconnect in order to reconnect. 
It's extremely important to always prioritize tech free activities or better still family tech free days. This activities can include around the table games like chase, scrabble and the like. It's likewise very important to restrain electronic gadgets from the dinner table and instead embrace a habitual occurence of holding family conversations which tend to become more interesting without any distractions from gadgets. Around the dinner table talks is surely the very best opportunity to disconnect your gadgets and reconnect with each other. It's inarguably true that internet technology have brought your virtual friends closer. Nonetheless, it have taken away your family members and real friends who are mostly within your reach on daily basis or whenever a dire need is at hand. 

MENTAL SLAVERY: AMERICA'S DECISION, KENYA'S EXPECTATIONS

Barely a fortnight ago, the Americans went to their voting ballots. That was Tuesday 3rd November 2020 but it was not until Saturday the 7th November 2020 that the declaration of the man who would become the 46th president in the land of the free because of the brave was made.
Within a nictate of an eye, both the main stream and the social media platforms were filled with different headlines which permeated globally. Nonetheless, there was one among the millions of headlines that caught my attention definitely from a country south of the Sahara and north of the Limpopo which happens to be my motherland.
This is how the headline read; AMERICA'S DECISION, KENYA'S EXPECTATIONS. This headline totally perplexed me and pestered me to ask myself a question; what befell a country that claims to have gained freedom 57 years ago and is to this day expecting succours from a foreign country?
A mindset that propels a 'free nation' to expect whatever kind of help from another country is a crystal-clear indication that; all we attained 57 year ago was physical freedom but our minds are still colonized. This means that we are not free indeed and that's why our deeds don't match with our profess of freedom. 

Hitherto, it's inarguably true that, the shackles that once fastened our wrists were not strong than the chains that currently impede our mind. We are just but victims of self-mental slavery. Quoting the words of the 32nd first lady of the United states of America madam Eleanor Roosevelt, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent,” we can only blame ourselves for allowing foreign nations to control our thinking. I totally agree that we were cunningly lured into colonialism but today we have consciously paved our way to neocolonialism.

In his 1980 Redemption Song, Robert Nesta Marley popularly known as Bob Marley, puts it this way; "Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds." In other words, mental slavery is a self-choice and freeing from it is likewise a personal decision. The scriptures are clear on your limitations or lack of them thereof. 'I can do all this through Christ who gives me strength.' Philippians 4:13 Equally if not more inspirational are the words inked by the wisest man to have ever walked on planet earth in Ecclesiastes 9:11. 'I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.' His words clearly shows that every human being  receives an equal measure of the most important and free asset in the world called TIME. The issue that marks our differences is how we manage or mismanage this precious asset called time. Time is money, spend it wisely. 
In reference to the scriptures in Hosea 4:6 'My people perish from lack of knowledge,' what most people from my motherland don't know is that foreign aid from the so called first world countries comes with strings attached. In other words, free is not free. If you wish to challenge my school of thought, you are welcome to peluse through American archives and find out the purpose of the National Security Study Memorandum or NSSM-200 commonly known as The Kissinger Report.
 As we look upon the United states of America to extend a hand of help, let's not get lost of the fact that a while back they had president Obama who we were so proud to call the son of Africa but all his presidency did was to initiate a Power Africa program with a promise of generating 30,000 megawatts of electricity in Africa by the year 2030. This meant that the seventeen years program was to generate 1,764 megawatts annually. Unfortunately, three years after the launching of the program in July 2013, the project had only generated 374 megawatts recording a deficiency of 1390 megawatts.
If we have anchored our hopes that Africa will come out of darkness to massive light via Power Africa Program of 2013, kindly let's reexamine our thoughts and free ourselves from mental slavery because, let there be light in Africa is something that United states of America can't deliver out of spontaneity and so are our other needs.

PURPOSE; THE POWER TO EMPOWER

What are the two most important days in your life? Times without number I've posed this question to my mentees where everyone gets the first answer correct and 98% errs on the second part. It's obvious that one of the most important days in your life is the day you were born because that's primarily the reason you are reading this blog. Nonetheless, the second most important day in your life isn't the day you depart from planet earth. The second most imperative day in your life is the day you realize why you were born. In other words, the day you'll find your PURPOSE. (SELF-IDENTITY)
Although different studies aren't consistent on the percentage of people who live and die having not found their purpose, the truth of the matter is; a greater percentage of human beings on planet earth are born, live and die without finding their purpose. The percentage ranges between 75%-80%. This literally means that; only 15% to 20% of the world population live a purpose driven life.
With all due respect, this isn't a matter to joke about. It's a totally disheartening issue.
This numbers are however a clear indication to why most people have continued to lead miserable and despondent lives. One of the greatest misconception about finding happiness and fulfillment in life is the present day believe that has continued to permeate like a wild fire citing opulence as an aspect that automatically renders an individual to freedom, happiness and fulfillment. Truth be told; it doesn't matter how filthy rich you become, failure to find your purpose in life will always disorient your life and deny you ecstasy. The earlier you shall know that; the purpose of life is your purpose in life the sooner you will stop equating monetary achievement with purpose realization.
In a dire need to find happiness, some people decide to marry or get married. As much as it's inarguably true that marriage is the fundamental source of happiness and fulfillment that's fostered through companionship, it's however not supposed to be the primary source of your happiness or fulfillment. Your purpose should be the primary source of your happiness and fulfillment. The fact that most people enter into marriage having not found their purpose in life which means that they don't have SELF-IDENTITY (you don't know who you are)
have tremendously contributed to marriages that can't stand the test of time where separation and divorce have become extremely rampant across the spectrum. This is a clear indication that your spouse can't give you self-identity. The reason to why purpose is also called self-identity is an implication that; finding your purpose in life is your personal responsibility. In a dire need to find happiness and fulfillment from your spouse, you fail to understand that he or she can't offer either of the two because, just like you, he or she is also deficient of both if he or she hasn't found his or her purpose in life. However, if your spouse have already found his or her purpose in life, the much he or she can do is help you find yours.
Even though happiness is a self-derived feeling, your personal decision of leading a happy life will always be a short lived glory without purpose on board. Purpose is the rationale that necessitates your present life and secures your future.
If you can't answer the question; WHO AM I which literally translates to WHAT IS MY PURPOSE, you are definitely wandering aimlessly in life without any pursuit whatsoever. Finding your purpose in life is the greatest achievement you will ever accord yourself. This discovery will not only give you SELF-IDENTITY and point your life to the right direction, it will also desist you from leading a frivolous and mediocre lifestyle, simultaneously rendering you to a dispensation of immense freedom, happiness and fulfillment and subsequently introducing you to a purpose driven life.
Regardless of you being an introvert or an extrovert, purpose gives your life a meaning and generates you enough power for self-empowerment and to empower others. As much as introverts think that their intrinsic ability to self-recharge can render them spontaneous happiness and fulfillment, the truth of the matter is; without purpose, your introvert personality will only offer inadequate gratification. This means that, finding purpose in life is an overrall need to humanity, personality notwithstanding.